A couple relationship It is not always easy, because each person has a character, a personality and a way of understanding and living life.
Although two people like each other and there attraction between them, sometimes keeping the flame of love alive can become complicated, since there are many aspects that have to coexist and get along with those who form the couple.
The breakups They can occur for many reasons: infidelity, lack of communication, misunderstanding or even some discussion, but on some occasions it can also be the personality of one of the two people that leads to the separation.
These breakups, in married couples, lead to divorce. Specifically, Spain is one of the countries in the world with more divorces, according to a study carried out by Business Insider in which he used data from different couples in the world from 2001 to 2013. Thus, the results of this study show that it is difficult to maintain health in the relationship, since for this it is necessary to take care of it by both parties.
The absence of conflicts In a relationship it is not very common, since it is difficult for two people to agree on all the aspects they share in a relationship. But there are also ways of understanding conflicts, since they can be dealt with in a mature way and they can come to be understood, something that would influence and strengthen the relationship.
How to be happy as a couple?
Even with the conflicts, being happy as a couple is possible. For two people to come to understand each other in many aspects of their lives is difficult, but there are some conditions that can strengthen a relationship and that, if both parties carry them out, can help to enjoy a healthy relationship.
It is clear that being happy all the time is not possible, neither as a couple nor in any aspect of life, but some aspects can be worked on to better cope with the conflicts that may arise in a couple.
The psychologist and coach Joan Garriga explains in his book ‘Good love in the couple‘that “in couple relationships there are no good and bad, guilty and innocent, just and sinful”, but rather “what there is are good and bad relationships: relationships that enrich us and relationships that do not enrich us.”
So we ask ourselves: What is the key for our relationship to work and for us to be happy? A priori, it is important to know that there is no pre-established and unique scheme to meet, but there are some criteria that can help to strengthen and create a healthy and happy relationship. Next, we will expose five keys to which Garriga refers in his book so that a couple works:
1. Make the relationship easy and comfortable: that it flows without too much effort, that we make things comfortable and that we are not forced to feel emotions. Real emotions, which are not routine, that provide well-being. A couple where everything flows naturally and where things are easy.
two. That the wishes of both parties are not incompatible: that there are no two natures that are too incompatible or too different. And, according to the psychologist, sometimes in relationships people believe they love each other in good faith but in reality they do not have a true understanding of who accompanies them. A couple could function with association, entanglement, and complicity.
3. That the members of the couple become true companions: that both parties feel like true companions, like friends. The couple has to be part of the friendship, a friendship that does not wear out over the years. A relationship will flow better in two people who can share their peculiarities, their interests, their tastes and even their differences.
Four. That there is full trust in the couple: the fourth condition would be to have full faith and trust in the other. Well, it is important that no one in the couple fear or distrust the other person. It is important that you make us believe that you will not fail us.
5. That there is a spontaneous desire for the other person to be well: the last condition, according to Garriga, could be the most difficult to fulfill. We must spontaneously wish that the person next to us is well, wish that they are well above our fears or shortcomings. The word “spontaneous” would be the epicenter of this question, since it refers to the fact that the feeling has to arise alone, it cannot be artificially manufactured. Either it is given, or it is not given, there is no more.
These five keys are also named Arnaud desjardins, a disciple of Hindu sage Swami Prajnanpad, in his book ‘A happy life, a happy love‘. In conclusion, these would be the five criteria that your teacher taught you to recognize the deep value of a partner. Put when they are met, the couple could live in harmony and be happier.