There are many myths within the universe of relationships that they believe indicate what a perfect couple relationship is like. One of them is the belief that Opposites attractIn other words, two totally opposite people feel a strong attraction for each other and, what is more, they complement each other and manage to be a “perfect” relationship.
However, this is another of the many romantic myths to be banished. In this article we are going to tell you why the myth that opposites attract does not always work and that, deep down, the perfect basic relationship does not exist: you need perseverance, respect, affection and love.
Why does the myth arise that opposites attract?
It is a socially accepted myth and what part of the idea that a person is incomplete By herself; therefore, when she meets another person who is the opposite of her, she feels a strong attraction in order to achieve completeness.
This starts from an idea that is already fundamentally wrong: the people we are 100% complete. We do not need anyone to complete us, but to complement us, to bring us good things, but not to finish training us: because we are already formed. Believing in love as a necessity is a toxic and dangerous sign.
But yes that it is true that a person very different from you can bring you new ideas, new thoughts, a way of living different from yours… Meeting people who are different from yourself is always interesting to be able to open your gaze and mind. But from there to attracting you, there is a step: it can be interesting and innovative, but it doesn’t have to attract you; that’s a myth.
It is also important to bear in mind that two people who are really opposites they will hardly fit. If they have a totally different way of thinking, a disparate ideology and an opposite way of life, it is very difficult that they can meet at some point and consider themselves happy.
For all this, the myth that the opposite poles it’s just that: a myth. A romantic construction of love and of the couple that aims to believe that a person different from you can complete you. But nobody completes you because you are already complete. In a relationship, what you should look for is to have a partner with whom there is respect, there is love, there is independence, there is affection, and so on. And, of course, it is quite important that, more or less, have a similar life or idea of lifeOtherwise, you will constantly collide and it will be difficult for you to build a relationship in which both of you feel fulfilled and at ease.
The phrase that opposites attract can have a 10% reality, in the sense that a person very different from you can attract your attention, more than anything out of curiosity and difference. But trying to build a relationship with such a disparate person can be a difficult task for both parties.